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Welcome to this resource page for those who have been given the honor of being the best man in the wedding of a close friend or relative.  You should be acknowledged.  One doesn’t just ask anyone to be the best man in their wedding.  Chances are the groom thought long and hard and had to choose asking you over several other options.  You should be commended for being the kind of person who demonstrates the quality of character worthy to such a request.

This website is designed to be a resource to help you in the specific task of delivering the all too important best man speech.  I have organized this site to create easy access to answers to common questions about the best man speech and specific challenges that most people have in their role as the best man in a wedding. 

How do I make my best man speech funny?

Humor in your best man speech is much easier than you likely realize.  A best man speech is intended to make the audience smile, chuckle, and laugh a little, but you are not expected to deliver a stand- up comedy show in the best man speech.  Comical stories in the best man speech are the best way to make the audience laugh.  This is easy humor to pull off too for the person who isn’t known for jokes and wisecracks.  There is an entire section of the Ultimate Best Man Speech eBook that is dedicated to this component of a solid best man speech. 

How do I know what humor is appropriate in the best man speech?

I’m so glad you asked this question.  Many best man speeches have been spoiled by poor judgment in this arena.  The answer to this is subjective, but keep this in mind; there will likely be children present, and there will be people of all ages adulthood listening to the best man speech.  You want them all to be able to relate to and laugh at your humor.  Poking some fun at the groom is expected in typical best man speeches, but I would avoid poking fun at the bride in the best man speech.  Never mention ex girlfriends in the best man speech, and don’t insult anybody even if they are not a guest at the wedding reception.

What about inside jokes in the best man speech? 

These will often get you into trouble in the best man speech because many in the audience won’t understand the joke.  They often get bored as you deliver the best man speech because they don’t relate to the story that is leading to the punch line.

What could go wrong in the best man speech?

As the best man you should be aware of many possible mishaps to the best man speech.  The most common would be an audience disturbance from patrons who are socially engaged and do not realize to be quiet and respectful when the best man speech is going on.  A proper introduction of the best man  by the DJ or some kind of a master of ceremonies is the best way to avoid this mishap to your best man speech.  If there is nobody who seems to be the right fit as a ceremonies master than the perfect person for the job is you, the best man.  Any other wedding toasts or remarks that are to be made by the groom, bride, and bridesmaid can be made before the best man speech, and then you can end the speaking portion of the meeting with your best man speech. 

How long should my best man speech be?

4-6 minutes is an excellent guideline for a best man speech.  You can get away with three minutes, and if you are particularly charming then you could go seven minutes and still keep the audience engaged in your best man speech. I certainly wouldn’t recommend any longer than that for a typical best man speech. 

What toast should I use in the best man speech?

My greatest advice here is to avoid something cliché or overused in the best man speech.  Don’t use humor in this part of the best man speech.  This is a moment within the best man speech for solemn respect and honor to the groom and his bride.  If you want a list of some perfect toasts for best man speeches  that are rarely, if ever used, then you’ll have to purchase my ebook.  The Ultimate Best Man Speech.

Should I tell a story in the best man speech?

You should definitely tell a story in the best man speech.  It will make delivery of the best man speech easier.  The audience will be more apt to listen and remember your best man speech.  Stories in a best man speech make for easier openers that captivate the audience too. 

What will make my best man speech memorable?

Carefully chosen words in your best man speech that create a rhythm will make the best man speech easier to remember and much easier to listen to.  I teach specific techniques for doing this in my book the The Ultimate Best Man Speech.  The development of a rhythm pattern is important for any best man speech as well. 

What possible disasters do I want to avoid in the best man speech? 

The biggest best man speech red flag is the risk of offending the groom and the bride.  Take this warning seriously.  It happens unintentionally in many best man speeches.  The consumption of alcohol prior to delivering the best man speech is another area of potential disaster.  

Should I use a microphone in the best man speech?

Your best man speech can be improved immensely with the simple use of a microphone.  If a microphone is available for the best man speech then use one.

How to open my best man speech?

Stories are great openers for a best man speech.  Other possible openings for your best man speech are acknowledgements of the patrons, the vendors, the wedding party etc.

How to close the best man speech?

The toast itself will serve as the close to the best man speech.  The key is to know how to stage the toast.  Staging the toast in a best man speech is the key skill to making the best man speech an absolute winner.

How do I deal with nervousness in the best man speech?

Proper preparation is the best medicine to dealing with best man speech jitters.  I recommend rehearsing the speech as many times as is necessary to make certain that the best man speech comes off without a hitch.

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