5 Must Avoid Mistakes for any Best Man Speech

1: Prepare your stage and setting:

What do I mean by logistics? I mean coordination with the DJ or band or whomever has control of the entertainment. I mean carefully chosen place to stand to deliver the speech and I mean timing so that the best man speech is not being delivered just after the announcement that the open bar will close for dinner in 5 minutes so everyone must run now to get a drink. These things are simple to control but are also imperative to pay attention to. Let’s begin with where to stand.

Speaking from behind the table you are sitting at is the weak way of delivering a best man speech because many in the audience won’t be able to see you. This in and of itself is reason enough to move. You should make yourself as visible as possible. The appropriate place to stand is either in the middle of the dance floor or directly in front of the DJ. Stand where you can most easily see everyone in the room. If you can see them, they can see you.

If there is a microphone present, use it. I’ve seen best man speeches made with microphones and those made without them. The power of that amplifier is incredible. Your voice will sound richer; you will command the room with much more ease, and the physical strain on you to create appropriate drama will be much less. If a microphone is not available relax. All is not lost. Many great speeches have been delivered without microphones. A few simple steps will allow you to maximize your performance. Project your voice, smile, and pan your audience with your eyes. Just look around as you speak. Don’t slouch. Your voice is impacted. Instead stand like a champ! Head high, chest sticking out, shoulders back. Your posture should be that of a gold medalist on a platform receiving his or her medal. Believe me, doing this will change your stage presence immensely. Your voice will carry further and sound more resolute and profound. Your gestures, jokes, and facial expressions will trigger the humor effects that you are looking for more easily. People will be more impressed with your speech and, do you know what is really interesting? Many of them won’t know why. They will simply be impressed.

2. Using appropriate and well timed Humor:

If your gut is telling you that a piece of humor you are considering to use may be inappropriate then you need to keep one thing in mind. The humor has to surprise the audience and take them to the edge of their comfort zones in order to be funny. After all, that’s what humor is. But remember, I said take them to the edge, I said nothing of crossing over. Distasteful humor that will offend members of the audience is something that must be absolutely avoided. The good news is that there are plenty of ways to be very funny without risking offending people. To get details about these, consider downloading my complete ebook The Ultimate Best Man Speech.

Specific Humor Strategies

v Keep it short. Less words are better.

v Keep it in three’s. Any professional comedian will tell you that there is magic in the number three. , three’s are a rhythm pattern that naturally set up humor. It works for humor and for poignancy.

v Surprise the audience. Don’t lead them into it. Beep, Beep, Beep isn’t funny but Beep, Beep, Splat is.

v Practice your humor until it rolls off your tongue very naturally.

Practicing your humor is critical. I cannot stress this enough. Test your humor material out before getting in front of your audience. You will want to do this to make yourself more comfortable in delivering the material and also to get feedback from people to make the material better.

3. Acknowledge the Groom and the Bride

Including appropriate and compelling acknowledgements for the bride and groom is a key to a fantastic speech. Best man speeches are known for the roasts that the groom often receives. Keep in mind, though, that the roast has more impact when the best man also acknowledges the groom and the bride for his and her good qualities as well. When the choice of compliments is well thought out and delivered in a rhythmic harmony, the best man speech is often revered as being truly powerful. Check out the best man speech workbook for a process on actually creating this. In short order, the best man should consider three compelling character traits about the groom that he would like to acknowledge. It might be something like being a hard worker, being ambitious, being authentic, or being intelligent. When the character traits acknowledged to the groom have a harmony with the acknowledgements given to the bride, then the best man has essentially communicated the logic of their being a match.

The best man should always acknowledge the bride for a recognizable character traits too. For example, you could acknowledge the brides big heart and dedication to others, while acknowledging the grooms ambitious zeal in developing his career. The correlation, here is that together they make a couple that can be expected to make a profound difference for others. The acknowledgements should always paint a picture of why their dedication to each other is a match. Also, remember, that the best man is to roast the groom only and never the bride. The best man should treat the bride as if she is an absolute princess.


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